TL/DR I guess my main questions are why did I even die offline in the first place?  And why did the game start me like I'm a brand new character on the server I started???  My boat was stuck because of a freeplaced item...  Once the boat was freed with anchor up and full speed ahead it threw both my wife and I off the boat and took off until it ran out of coal... This buggy glitchy game is almost more annoying than its worth playing.... 

Last time I played on my server with my wife I logged off on my boat off the shore of a different island than my starting island, in fact quite a distance away from my starting island.    My wife continued playing without me for a couple days on that island our boat was parked at.   two days later while offline I some how died and all my stuff was on the ocean floor beneath my boat....  I wasn't able to log on for another couple days and when I did I was spawned at the main island with not even the map I had on me, which when I had died before always spawned with me...   So now my wife and my boat are very far away and I have nothing on me to even get back to them and the really bad part is the boat wont move under her control...     This is just....  Almost game breaking for me.    My ship randomly spawning on shallow land or on my dock instead of next to it where I parked it. No.  My ship randomly wanting to not be in the water. no not even that.  Trying to dig my ship out of shallow water only to have the water continue going more shallow making it nearly impossible to dig out.  Nope that wasn't even too horribly bad that I didn't want to play the game.   Now this... THIS me dying offline in a safe place and getting spawned all the way back to my starter island with nothing and my boat some how wont let my wife control it.  Yeah thats pretty bad!  I wouldn't have even known it was my starter island except my wife had gone around the entire island she was at twice and didn't see me.  I then started looking around, died from a mob of wild cats, only to find my original town...   Yes yes I can remake everything because all my work stations are here, but that is not the point...  EDIT!  It started me as a new character... No recipes revealed... nothing....  And now I've made it back to my boat and with anchor up neither of us can control the boat?  It wont move front or back. It tries to and acts like its still anchored without the anchor down...???  (so frustrated) The water is very deep.  The boat will reverse for a very short distance then act like its going up a ramp and stop. Going forward it does the same thing, almost acting like its still anchored to something but with nothing anchoring it nor any land preventing it from going back or forward..???