Thanks for the response, I totally agree with this. I will admit i was not really thinking about the raiding and pvp part of this decision, I feel like possible there should be multiple multiplayer modes such as:
Peaceful - No pvp, can set spawns in bed
PvP - Cant spawn in beds, instead do your idea
I feel like this addition to the game could allow personal servers with few people who are not interested in pvp to remove a difficult part of the game but still let large...